I complain. You complain. We all complain. It’s part of our system — though I wish to stop it, or if not, minimize at least. I’m still practicing, trying my best, trying to understand.
There were days when I don’t complain amid an annoying situation. Instead, I respond not react. And it feels good, it feels liberating.
Then again, it happens when I see the house messy or when the Internet is down or when my wife or a friend didn’t follow the plan. I know it destroys my inner peace and ripples negativity. But I couldn’t resist. I’m sorry. I’ve been trying.
Recently, I wrote about stop complaining, which is a reminder to myself — supposedly the goal of all my blog posts (because I always forget). But as days passed, I was becoming more and more intrigued if it’s really possible to stop complaining.
I wonder how Buddhist monks or other Zen practitioners do it — I heard stories they never complain. Is it true? Maybe I could meet them some day and they will teach and train me. Maybe that’s the ultimate panacea. Maybe.
But I’m tired of dreaming. I’m tired of waiting for solutions.
One day, a friend told me about a brilliant designer named Tobias Van Schneider. After checking his website, I followed him on Twitter. And here’s what I saw:
Right then, my perspective shifted. I knew it. If we can’t stop complaining, we can change the way we complain. We can use our frustrations or our anger as a source of motivation to solve the problem, or create something that would, at least, better the situation.
I understand that it doesn’t apply to all kinds of problems (like very serious problems). But I believe that this mentality can serve as a starting point to catapult ourselves into finding solutions, especially in our work and business.
For example: If you don’t like your company’s marketing approach, make a marketing plan and present it to them. If you don’t like your coworkers’ articles, write a new article and let them notice the elements they didn’t consider. If you hate the website they developed, build a website and let them realize how dull their work is, that they need to redo it and make it better.
The point is, complaining doesn’t get you anywhere — it doesn’t. Instead of complaining about something you hate, create something and let them show that there’s a better way, a better option, a better result. As I’ve said before, we always have a choice.
And that includes creating.
PS: Check Tobias blog. It’s a hive of gold nuggets.