All problems you have right now can be solved. Even the biggest problem you imagine, there’s always a solution to that. Of course, everybody knows there’s always a solution. Where most of us differ is how we interpret these problems. Two groups of people: Group 1: People interpret problems as a challenge for them to …
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A Healthy Person Wants a Thousand Things
A healthy person: I want to get rich. I want to live in a mansion and own luxury cars. I want to be recognized. I want to be admired and become famous. I want to inspire and help people and become an influencer; a celebrity. I want to change the world. A sick person: I want …
One Wrong Move
You can’t just dismiss all the right moves you did because of one wrong move. No matter how destructive that action was, you still made enough right moves in the past. You aren’t where you are right now if not because of you. It’s OK to feel embarrassed and guilty. Acknowledge it. Reflect on it. …
Minimizing Reaction, Maximizing Solution
It’s so easy to get drowned when there’s a problem. So easy to blame. Easy to run. Our default is to react (and curse) — “Shit! Stupid! Wtf! Come on!” But any form of action has an equal or opposite reaction (Newton’s Third Law). That means those you consider “problems” are actually the “reactions”. Something …
Unnecessary Anger, Unnecessary Energy
Every time you lose control and burst anger, you’re releasing energy. Releasing means reacting. For most people, that’s better than hiding their emotions. But that doesn’t mean it’s always the way to go. Reactions are not always valid. Especially if the cause isn’t something you should be angry about. But yes, it happens. It’s not …
Focus on What You Feel
Maybe the reason you started a creative project is you’re curious to try it. Curiosity was the starting point. Eventually you’ve learned to love it. And you want to become the best of it. Because being the best could make you famous. Being famous could mean more opportunities. And more opportunities could mean more money. …
Don’t Trust the Process, Question It
A common belief among young people pursuing their dreams is: “Trust the process.” But trusting the process without questioning it can be dangerous. Imagine studying at a university for 4 years to become a so-called “professional”. Or sacrificing everything you love doing to gain financial freedom. Or undergoing chronic stress and unnecessary pressure for the …
Status and Validation
When you’re young and naive, you’d be tempted to pursue things you think would elevate your status. Your desire is irresistible since you wanted to impress your family and peers. All you want is get their validation. Without their validation, you are nothing. That’s why it’s common to see a young adult (early 20s) doing …
The Beautiful Side
Last 2020, I wrote about my frustrations when we moved into a new house — reorganizing stuff, balancing work and creative projects, building a routine, etc. If you’ve read it, you know my frustration. And it’s happening again. Last month, we moved into a new house. This one is huge, which means more organizing to …
Focus, Energy, and Time
For some people, maybe it’s important for them to focus on recording that album or selling that product. Or maybe it’s important for them to focus on what’s happening in their country’s politics, a celebrity’s life, or a favorite artist. If you’re wondering why you’re not moving in the direction you intend to be, ask …
Look, That’s Me
Social media has made us stalkers. It’s now easy to know what others are doing. The obvious downside is you can’t help but compare. Those you see doing greater things can make you feel envious. You feel bad for being small and not successful. Keep doing that and you’ll end up anxious — of course, …
Doing the Opposite: A Greener Pasture or Danger
If you’re always looking for motivation, that means you don’t really want to do whatever you’re about to do. But you have to do it anyway because other people depend on you. Sometimes it works. Sometimes you can’t tell. Yet you have to do it anyway. But what if you’re sick and tired of it? …
Don’t Live in the Dark
Any negative emotion and thought, if not channeled appropriately, could lead you into the dark. This dark place is where negativity, irrational fears, worries, and all the demons lurk. Too much stress and overthinking will lead you there. The more you spend time in that place, the more you become a coward — because it …