So you made a mistake at work, and now suffering from your boss’s wrath? Ashamed? Worried about the consequences? You made a bad deal with someone, and now lost a ton of money? You’re worried about the debts and the bills you need to pay? Worried about how you’re going to explain it to your …
(Total) Freedom
The life we all dream of is total freedom. We only do things if we want to. Go to places we need (or want) to go. Wake up at whatever hour we want. Spend time with our loved ones whenever we want. We don’t work for money. We don’t have a boss. And most importantly, we …
One Experience, Multiple Meanings
A good experience for you may mean bad for your friend. And a good experience for your friend or any stranger on the Internet may mean nothing to you at all. We all make meanings and interpretations of our experiences. If it’s a good experience, that’s awesome! But if it’s bad? Acknowledge it. But remember …
A Bad Day — Not a Bad Life
If you’re having a bad day, it’s easy to think that your life sucks. That you are unlucky… punished by the universe or some powerful being (you must repent!). Nobody wants a bad day. Everybody wants a good day. But how can you say it’s a good day if you don’t know what a bad …
Will Your Worries End?
What we worry about… everything starts in the mind. Our mind is processing all the information we consume. We can’t help it. That’s the mind. If you always consume information about the global crisis, job loss, business shutdowns, hatred and wars, and different kinds of conflict in society, then your mind will process and store …
12 Truths I Learned at 32
Last August 2021, I turned 32. As usual, it took me sooooo long to distill the things I’ve learned. This one took more than a year! I’m wondering whether it’s possible to post these on my exact birth date. It’s March 2023 as I’m finalizing this. And I just turned 33 last August 2022! Yikes! …
Amidst the Chaos
Find your center. Your center is the most important thing in your life. It’s the one that keeps you grounded. Gives you meaning. It holds everything. It’s your axiom. Your panacea. Your source. Without it, you are lost. Every time you complain, you are not in touch with your center. To complain implies you are …
Change, Don’t, Change, Don’t
Changing something is tricky. But changing yourself is trickier. If you want to change something, there are hundreds of “how-tos” you can find. But if you want to change yourself, there’s no specific “how-to” for it. People who follow others’ advice on how to change themselves are often bound to fail. That’s because they can’t just …
Colors of Life
Things in life are not black and white. Anything believed as truth can be nuanced. It can be personal. And different for every person. Assuming all things are the same (or different) only leads to unwanted problems. Believing that something is true doesn’t mean it’s forever true. Believing that something is false doesn’t mean it’s …
A Different Outcome
Many people believe that deciding quickly is the way to go. But that doesn’t apply to every situation. Sometimes thinking deeply many times before deciding is more practical. Doesn’t matter how smart you think your decision is. Because nobody truly knows the outcome. There are so many things beyond control. A once smart decision could …