Eliminate and Focus

When we set a goal, our minds default to thinking we need something to accomplish it. A new gadget. A new book. A new tutorial video. If it’s not new, more — more money and time. Or more support from people. In reality however, having a new thing or having more rarely helps. The solution … Continue Reading →

 

Trying to Impress, Trying to Prove

The most invaluable poem I discovered last year. It speaks a lot about human nature — the things that most of us do without any clear reason. Nothing’s wrong with these things. But they can be destructive in the long run. You don’t have to believe me. Explore yourself. Question your behavior. Thanks to Gabriele … Continue Reading →

 

Your Life is What You Tolerate

If you tolerate living in a disorganized or shabby house… If you tolerate the addiction or irresponsibility of your spouse… If you tolerate the financial mismanagement of your parents (or your adult kids)… If you tolerate being around negative toxic people… If you tolerate being scammed and cheated… If you tolerate someone’s unethical treatment of … Continue Reading →

 

Self-care is Free

Self-care is taking care of your overall well-being — physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. And it’s always possible to do it. No need to spend on anything (most of the time). Self-care — in any form — is always within your control. All you need to do is make a list of the things that are … Continue Reading →

 

When Things Go Wrong

That is the time to test yourself. The time to verify whether you’ve learned from your experiences. All the self-improvement books, podcasts, and videos you’ve consumed are useless if you can’t practice them in real life. What’s the point? Self-improvement requires awful experiences. These awful experiences are opportunities to test possibilities — what you’re willing … Continue Reading →

 

Rethinking

Everything you do regularly — you’ll get used to it. Until you stop questioning them. From there, you’re on autopilot. You’re just going with the flow. All good. The problem starts when life wants you to change something, but you resist. An example of this is when you become a parent. Would you still spend … Continue Reading →

 

Nothing’s Wrong

But the mind is always thinking there is. And that’s where most of our problems start. We view things as either flawed or perfect. But perfection is subjective. It’s personal. The common problem we all have is forgetting how lucky we are in this generation. Imagine the 1920s. Think about the people living in that … Continue Reading →

 

Guard Your Mind

Anything we consume online can influence our minds. If we mindlessly scroll on TikTok, Facebook, or Instagram every day, we feed our minds all those random things. Every. Single. Day. We don’t need most of those things. Most don’t have value. But why are we still doing it? I’ve written before about not owning a … Continue Reading →

 

Your Own World is Not Real

Your desires. Your aspirations. Your preferences. They are not purely intentional. At some point, someone instilled them in you through a social media post, blog, podcast, movie, book, or video. Anything. Or it could be your family or friends. Or school teachers, classmates, workmates, neighbors, or even strangers. Anyone. Whatever you read, watch, or hear … Continue Reading →

 

Overwhelmed and Paralyzed

The things to do keep piling up. Your mind is racing. Emotions all over the place. But you’re not getting anywhere. You can’t focus. Can’t even start. You are overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed is like being paralyzed. You want to move, but for some reason, you can’t. And you don’t have any idea what’s going on. … Continue Reading →

 

Face the Truth

The truth is the truth. It is undeniable. What you see and hear. In front of you. The truth doesn’t fool you. It is real. It is the thing. It is what’s happening. Without the sugarcoat. Without the labels. In front of you. No matter how many interpretations you have, the truth remains. You can … Continue Reading →

 

Multiple Threads

The mind is an open blank space. It wanders. Speculates. Analyzes. Creates. Absorbs. Thoughts come and go. Sometimes it stores what is needed. But for the most part, it discards. It forgets things that don’t matter yet. If you aim to be efficient at anything, you can’t just absorb everything that comes your way. Instead, … Continue Reading →

 

External Approval

Seeking external approval is human nature. When others recognize our good work, we felt seen. So we do our best to stay in that loop. After all, we did a really good job. We deserve praise once in a while. But there’s one problem: It’s addictive. And this addiction — as with other addictions — could … Continue Reading →

 

10 Lessons From Our 3rd Company Trip (2022)

I had to pack everything for our 8 AM flight. Make sure everything was in order. Everything we needed was in the right place. And the house was secure. Everything. 3 AM. Exhausted. Drained. I told my family to wake up before 6. Move fast. Get ready. I needed sleep. . . . “WE MISSED … Continue Reading →

 

Teaching and Becoming

It’s easy to teach others through words. Examples. Demonstrations. Presentations. Depending on the person, sometimes it works. But sometimes it doesn’t. Because we all learn differently. Others can easily learn through words, or when someone shows them something. But for others, it’s just a complete waste of time. If you’re teaching someone for a long … Continue Reading →