One of the ironies in life is that we always expect others to act flawlessly, yet we know nobody’s perfect. We know that they — family members, friends, neighbors, or even the world leaders — are imperfect individuals. Yet here we are expecting them to act the best way possible. And when they fail, we … Continue Reading →

We don’t fully understand something through reading, or listening, or researching, or watching. True understanding takes place when we apply what we’ve learned to real life — when we actually experience it. Notice the difference. Knowing is one thing. Understanding is one thing. Sometimes we know something, but we don’t truly understand it. It’s just … Continue Reading →

My stomach was rumbling. No. It was on fire. It was about to explode. Allyn, my wife also felt it. While my teammate Orlan was speechless. I started imagining a feast. Salad. Grilled chicken. Lettuce. Roast beef. Fried lumpia. Soup. Pizza. Chips. Yum yum. But maybe we should wait for others. Maybe we should. Shiela … Continue Reading →

Peel your thoughts and emotions day by day. Question your beliefs. Question your desires. Question everything: your relationships, your dreams, your fears, plans, needs, wants, reactions, dramas, envies, biases, thought process, and perspective. Challenge everything you think you know. Challenge everything you believe as the truth. Reflect on your mistakes — learn. Try something new. … Continue Reading →

5 years ago, I was a novice web writer. 5 years ago, I was a novice metal songwriter. I think I still am. I don’t see myself as an expert. I’m still learning. The only difference is, I now have the experience. I know what it takes. I know how it feels to fail and … Continue Reading →

Can you catch yourself every time you get mad at something beyond your control? Can you catch yourself every time you beat yourself up for failing to achieve your desired outcome? Can you catch yourself every time you berate your spouse for his/her inadequacy? Can you catch yourself every time you want to prove you’re … Continue Reading →

We think being the best will lead us to success. But that’s not always the case. In reality, what most people really want is not the best. People want what is useful (to them). If you can be useful to others, you’re way more ahead than those trying to become the best. How can we … Continue Reading →

It sucks when you do something good for others but they hurt you instead. But does it really matter if they hurt you? Would that change the fact that you exist? Will that make the world explode? The world doesn’t care about your feelings. People fuck up. And you may be the victim. But who … Continue Reading →

I bought 2 identical padlocks for our two rooms. Here, take a look: Padlock 1 was for our bedroom. Padlock 2 was for our home office. But there’s one problem: Padlock 2 couldn’t fit. On the other hand, Padlock 1 fit well. The staple was big enough. I didn’t want to wallow in frustration, right … Continue Reading →

What most modern people want is to have enough money and more time. Money + Time  = Ideal life But we have to remember the tradeoff (there’s always a tradeoff). Earning more money (the right way) would consume time. There’s a sacrifice. We might consider setting aside some hobbies or entertainment, and instead, use our … Continue Reading →