The mind is an open blank space. It wanders. Speculates. Analyzes. Creates. Absorbs. Thoughts come and go. Sometimes it stores what is needed. But for the most part, it discards. It forgets things that don’t matter yet. If you aim to be efficient at anything, you can’t just absorb everything that comes your way. Instead, … Continue Reading →

Seeking external approval is human nature. When others recognize our good work, we felt seen. So we do our best to stay in that loop. After all, we did a really good job. We deserve praise once in a while. But there’s one problem: It’s addictive. And this addiction — as with other addictions — could … Continue Reading →

I had to pack everything for our 8 AM flight. Make sure everything was in order. Everything we needed was in the right place. And the house was secure. Everything. 3 AM. Exhausted. Drained. I told my family to wake up before 6. Move fast. Get ready. I needed sleep. . . . “WE MISSED … Continue Reading →

It’s easy to teach others through words. Examples. Demonstrations. Presentations. Depending on the person, sometimes it works. But sometimes it’s just a complete waste of time. Because we all learn differently. If you’re teaching someone for a long time, but not learning what they’re supposed to learn, you’re probably doing it the wrong way. Try … Continue Reading →

Whenever someone posts their accomplishments on social media, you can’t help but admire (or envy) what they did. But that doesn’t mean you must experience the same thing. Accomplishments are subjective. Maybe good for them. Not for you. What they accomplished is probably what they’re most passionate about. Or it could be what they’ve been … Continue Reading →

A big mistake at work. And now suffering from your boss’s wrath. Ashamed. Worried about the consequences. Because there will be. A bad business deal with someone. And lost a ton of money. Not mentioning the debts and the bills you need to pay. Plus, you need to explain this to your family. You didn’t … Continue Reading →

The life we all dream of is total freedom. We only do things if we want to. Go to places we need (or want) to go. Wake up at whatever hour we want. Spend time with our loved ones whenever we want. We don’t work for money. We don’t have a boss. And most importantly, we … Continue Reading →

A good experience for you may mean bad for your friend. And a good experience for your friend or any stranger on the Internet may mean nothing to you at all. Here’s the truth: We all make meanings and interpretations of our experiences. If it’s a good experience, that’s awesome! What if it’s bad? If … Continue Reading →

If you’re having a bad day, it’s easy to think that your life sucks. That you are unlucky… punished by the universe or some powerful being (you must repent!). Nobody wants a bad day. Everybody wants a good day. But how can you say it’s a good day if you don’t know what a bad … Continue Reading →

What we worry about… everything starts in the mind. Our mind is processing all the information we consume. We can’t help it. That’s the mind. If you always consume information about the global crisis, job loss, business shutdowns, hatred and wars, and social issues, then your mind will process and store that information in your … Continue Reading →

Last August 2021, I turned 32. As usual, it took me sooooo long to distill the things I’ve learned. This one took more than a year! I’m wondering whether it’s possible to post these on my exact birth date. It’s March 2023 as I’m finalizing this. And I just turned 33 last August 2022! Yikes! … Continue Reading →

Find your center. Your center is the most important thing in your life. It’s the one that keeps you grounded. Gives you meaning. It holds everything. It’s your axiom. Your panacea. Your source. Without it, you are lost. Every time you complain, you are not in touch with your center. To complain implies you are … Continue Reading →

Changing something is tricky. But changing yourself is trickier. If you want to change something, there are hundreds of “how-tos” you can find. But if you want to change yourself, there’s no specific “how-to” for it. People who follow others’ advice on how to change themselves are often bound to fail. That’s because they can’t just … Continue Reading →

Things in life are not black and white. Anything believed as truth can be nuanced. It can be personal. And different for every person. Assuming all things are the same (or different) only leads to unwanted problems. Believing that something is true doesn’t mean it’s forever true. Believing that something is false doesn’t mean it’s … Continue Reading →

Many people believe that deciding quickly is the way to go. But that doesn’t apply to every situation. Sometimes thinking deeply many times before deciding is more practical. Doesn’t matter how smart you think your decision is. Because nobody truly knows the outcome. There are so many things beyond control. A once smart decision could … Continue Reading →