Overwhelmed and Paralyzed

The things to do keep piling up. Your mind is racing. Emotions all over the place. But you’re not getting anywhere. You can’t focus. Can’t even start. You are overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed is like being paralyzed. You want to move, but for some reason, you can’t. And you don’t have any idea what’s going on. … Continue Reading →

 

Face the Truth

The truth is the truth. It is undeniable. What you see and hear. In front of you. The truth doesn’t fool you. It is real. It is the thing. It is what’s happening. Without the sugarcoat. Without the labels. In front of you. No matter how many interpretations you have, the truth remains. You can … Continue Reading →

 

Multiple Threads

The mind is an open blank space. It wanders. Speculates. Analyzes. Creates. Absorbs. Thoughts come and go. Sometimes it stores what is needed. But for the most part, it discards. It forgets things that don’t matter yet. If you aim to be efficient at anything, you can’t just absorb everything that comes your way. Instead, … Continue Reading →

 

External Approval

Seeking external approval is human nature. When others recognize our good work, we felt seen. So we do our best to stay in that loop. After all, we did a really good job. We deserve praise once in a while. But there’s one problem: It’s addictive. And this addiction — as with other addictions — could … Continue Reading →

 

10 Lessons From Our 3rd Company Trip (2022)

I had to pack everything for our 8 AM flight. Make sure everything was in order. Everything we needed was in the right place. And the house was secure. Everything. 3 AM. Exhausted. Drained. I told my family to wake up before 6. Move fast. Get ready. I needed sleep. . . . “WE MISSED … Continue Reading →

 

Teaching and Becoming

It’s easy to teach others through words. Examples. Demonstrations. Presentations. Depending on the person, sometimes it works. But sometimes it’s just a complete waste of time. Because we all learn differently. If you’re teaching someone for a long time, but not learning what they’re supposed to learn, you’re probably doing it the wrong way. Try … Continue Reading →

 

Not Knowing

Whenever someone posts their accomplishments on social media, you can’t help but admire (or envy) what they did. But that doesn’t mean you must experience the same thing. Accomplishments are subjective. Maybe good for them. Not for you. What they accomplished is probably what they’re most passionate about. Or it could be what they’ve been … Continue Reading →

 

What is Good About This?

A big mistake at work. And now suffering from your boss’s wrath. Ashamed. Worried about the consequences. Because there will be. A bad business deal with someone. And lost a ton of money. Not mentioning the debts and the bills you need to pay. Plus, you need to explain this to your family. You didn’t … Continue Reading →

 

(Total) Freedom

The life we all dream of is total freedom. We only do things if we want to. Go to places we need (or want) to go. Wake up at whatever hour we want. Spend time with our loved ones whenever we want. We don’t work for money. We don’t have a boss. And most importantly, we … Continue Reading →

 

One Experience, Multiple Meanings

A good experience for you may mean bad for your friend. And a good experience for your friend or any stranger on the Internet may mean nothing to you at all. Here’s the truth: We all make meanings and interpretations of our experiences. If it’s a good experience, that’s awesome! What if it’s bad? If … Continue Reading →

 

A Bad Day — Not a Bad Life

If you’re having a bad day, it’s easy to think that your life sucks. That you are unlucky… punished by the universe or some powerful being (you must repent!). Nobody wants a bad day. Everybody wants a good day. But how can you say it’s a good day if you don’t know what a bad … Continue Reading →

 

Will Your Worries End?

What we worry about… everything starts in the mind. Our mind is processing all the information we consume. We can’t help it. That’s the mind. If you always consume information about the global crisis, job loss, business shutdowns, hatred and wars, and social issues, then your mind will process and store that information in your … Continue Reading →

 

12 Truths I Learned at 32

Last August 2021, I turned 32. As usual, it took me sooooo long to distill the things I’ve learned. This one took more than a year! I’m wondering whether it’s possible to post these on my exact birth date. It’s March 2023 as I’m finalizing this. And I just turned 33 last August 2022! Yikes! … Continue Reading →

 

Amidst the Chaos

Find your center. Your center is the most important thing in your life. It’s the one that keeps you grounded. Gives you meaning. It holds everything. It’s your axiom. Your panacea. Your source. Without it, you are lost. Every time you complain, you are not in touch with your center. To complain implies you are … Continue Reading →

 

Change, Don’t, Change, Don’t

Changing something is tricky. But changing yourself is trickier. If you want to change something, there are hundreds of “how-tos” you can find. But if you want to change yourself, there’s no specific “how-to” for it. People who follow others’ advice on how to change themselves are often bound to fail. That’s because they can’t just … Continue Reading →