A Healthy Person Wants a Thousand Things

A healthy person: I want to get rich. I want to live in a mansion and own luxury cars. I want to be recognized. I want to be admired and become famous. I want to inspire and help people and become an influencer; a celebrity. I want to change the world. A sick person: I want … Continue Reading →

 

One Wrong Move

You can’t just dismiss all the right moves you did because of one wrong move. No matter how destructive that action was, you still made enough right moves in the past. You aren’t where you are right now if not because of you. It’s OK to feel embarrassed and guilty. Acknowledge it. Reflect on it. … Continue Reading →

 

Minimizing Reaction, Maximizing Solution

It’s so easy to get drowned when there’s a problem. So easy to blame. Easy to run. Our default is to react (and curse) — “Shit! Stupid! Wtf! Come on!” But any form of action has an equal or opposite reaction (Newton’s Third Law). That means those you consider “problems” are actually the “reactions”. Something … Continue Reading →

 

Unnecessary Anger, Unnecessary Energy

Every time you lose control and burst anger, you’re releasing energy. Releasing means reacting. For most people, that’s better than hiding their emotions. But that doesn’t mean it’s always the way to go. Reactions are not always valid. Especially if the cause isn’t something you should be angry about. But yes, it happens. It’s not … Continue Reading →

 

Focus on What You Feel

Maybe the reason you started a creative project is you’re curious to try it. Curiosity was the starting point. Eventually you’ve learned to love it. And you want to become the best of it. Because being the best could make you famous. Being famous could mean more opportunities. And more opportunities could mean more money. … Continue Reading →

 

Don’t Trust the Process, Question It

A common belief among young people pursuing their dreams is: “Trust the process.” But trusting the process without questioning it can be dangerous. Imagine studying at a university for 4 years to become a so-called “professional”. Or sacrificing everything you love doing to gain financial freedom. Or undergoing chronic stress and unnecessary pressure for the … Continue Reading →

 

Status and Validation

When you’re young and naive, you’d be tempted to pursue things you think would elevate your status. Your desire is irresistible since you wanted to impress your family and peers. All you want is get their validation. Without their validation, you are nothing. That’s why it’s common to see a young adult (early 20s) doing … Continue Reading →

 

The Beautiful Side

Last 2020, I wrote about my frustrations when we moved into a new house — reorganizing stuff, balancing work and creative projects, building a routine, etc. If you’ve read it, you know my frustration. And it’s happening again. Last month, we moved into a new house. This one is huge, which means more organizing to … Continue Reading →

 

Focus, Energy, and Time

For some people, maybe it’s important for them to focus on writing that album or selling that product. Or maybe it’s important for them to focus on what’s happening in their country’s politics or the life of that celebrity or their favorite artists. If you’re wondering why you’re not moving in the direction you intend … Continue Reading →

 

Look, That’s Me

These days, it’s easy to know what others are doing. The obvious downside is you can’t help but compare. Those you see doing greater things can make you feel envious. You feel bad for being small and not successful. Keep doing that and you’ll end up anxious — because of course, you want to keep … Continue Reading →