The Art of Catching Yourself

Can you catch yourself every time you get mad at something beyond your control? Can you catch yourself every time you beat yourself up for failing to achieve your desired outcome? Can you catch yourself every time you berate your spouse for his/her inadequacy? Can you catch yourself every time you want to prove you’re … Continue Reading →

 

Not the Best, But Useful

We think being the best will lead us to success. But that’s not always the case. In reality, what most people really want is not the best. People want what is useful (to them). If you can be useful to others, you’re way more ahead than those trying to become the best. How can we … Continue Reading →

 

Flush Them Out

It sucks when you do something good for others but they hurt you instead. But does it really matter if they hurt you? Would that change the fact that you exist? Will that make the world explode? The world doesn’t care about your feelings. People fuck up. And you may be the victim. But who … Continue Reading →

 

Old Belief, New Belief

I bought 2 identical padlocks for our two rooms. Here, take a look: Padlock 1 was for our bedroom. Padlock 2 was for our home office. But there’s one problem: Padlock 2 couldn’t fit. On the other hand, Padlock 1 fit well. The staple was big enough. I didn’t want to wallow in frustration, right … Continue Reading →

 

Money or Time? Awareness and Boundary

What most modern people want is to have enough money and more time. Money + Time  = Ideal life But we have to remember the tradeoff (there’s always a tradeoff). Earning more money (the right way) would consume time. There’s a sacrifice. We might consider setting aside some hobbies or entertainment, and instead, use our … Continue Reading →

 

10 Truths I Learned at 30

Last Aug 2019, I turned 30. What a year. This post should have been posted last year. But as usual, life gets in the way. Did a lot of things. Learned a lot of new things. You can check the truths I learned at 29 here. 1. The pain or adversity we experience today will … Continue Reading →

 

You are “You”

“At the end of the day, it’s just you.” I’m not sure what that quote means for you. But I think about it this way: No matter what I do or what others do, at the end of the day, I still end up with myself. I’m still inside this body. This is a good … Continue Reading →

 

It’s Happening Right Now

My wife and I moved into a new house 4 months ago. It was an abrupt decision. We weren’t prepared. But we took our chances. And glad, we made it. For the past 4 months, everything felt messy. I had to balance working (we both work from home) and organizing the house, and assisting my … Continue Reading →

 

My Happiness Formula

I didn’t invent this. But you can try. Gratitude + Contentment + Acceptance Gratitude: Grateful for everything I have. Grateful for the time I can spend with the people I love. Grateful for being alive and healthy and safe. Grateful I can still do things that give me joy. I can still be useful. Contentment: … Continue Reading →

 

It’s Not Their Fault

You have a dream. You want to become a painter. You want to become a musician. A novelist. A dancer. A scientist. You want to start your own small business. You want to start a tech company. But your parents, your relatives, and every person you know disagree because your dream won’t make you rich. … Continue Reading →