Flush Them Out

It sucks when you do something good for others but they hurt you instead. But does it really matter if they hurt you? Would that change the fact that you exist? Will that make the world explode? The world doesn’t care about your feelings. People fuck up. And you may be the victim. But who … Continue Reading →

 

Old Belief, New Belief

I bought 2 identical padlocks for our two rooms. Here, take a look: Padlock 1 was for our bedroom. Padlock 2 was for our home office. But there’s one problem: Padlock 2 couldn’t fit. On the other hand, Padlock 1 fit well. The staple was big enough. I didn’t want to wallow in frustration, right … Continue Reading →

 

Money or Time? Awareness and Boundary

What most modern people want is to have enough money and more time. Money + Time  = Ideal life But we have to remember the tradeoff (there’s always a tradeoff). Earning more money (the right way) would consume time. There’s a sacrifice. We might consider setting aside some hobbies or entertainment, and instead, use our … Continue Reading →

 

10 Truths I Learned at 30

Last Aug 2019, I turned 30. What a year. This post should have been posted last year. But as usual, life gets in the way. Did a lot of things. Learned a lot of new things. You can check the truths I learned at 29 here. 1. The pain or adversity we experience today will … Continue Reading →

 

You are “You”

“At the end of the day, it’s just you.” I’m not sure what that quote means for you. But I think about it this way: No matter what I do or what others do, at the end of the day, I still end up with myself. I’m still inside this body. This is a good … Continue Reading →

 

It’s Happening Right Now

My wife and I moved into a new house 4 months ago. It was an abrupt decision. We weren’t prepared. But we took our chances. And glad, we made it. For the past 4 months, everything felt messy. I had to balance working (we both work from home) and organizing the house, and assisting my … Continue Reading →

 

My Happiness Formula

I didn’t invent this. But you can try. Gratitude + Contentment + Acceptance Gratitude: Grateful for everything I have. Grateful for the time I can spend with the people I love. Grateful for being alive and healthy and safe. Grateful I can still do things that give me joy. I can still be useful. Contentment: … Continue Reading →

 

It’s Not Their Fault

You have a dream. You want to become a painter. You want to become a musician. A novelist. A dancer. A scientist. You want to start your own small business. You want to start a tech company. But your parents, your relatives, and every person you know disagree because your dream won’t make you rich. … Continue Reading →

 

Change it, Leave it, Accept it

In almost every circumstance, we only have 3 choices: Change Leave Accept If we can’t change it, then leave. If we can’t leave, then change. If we can’t change or leave, then accept whatever it is. But we all know that changing or leaving may lead to consequences we might regret. And accepting is easier … Continue Reading →

 

Nobody Wants to Suffer, But That’s What We Need (Sometimes)

In the middle of suffering, we wish it to end. We wish to be in a different situation where everything feels pleasurable and smooth. But it is through suffering that we learn the most about life. The more we experience it, the more we become wiser. Suffering gives us a new perspective on what it … Continue Reading →