Don’t Trust the Process, Question It

A common belief among young people pursuing their dreams is: “Trust the process.” But trusting the process without questioning it can be dangerous. Imagine studying at a university for 4 years to become a so-called “professional”. Or sacrificing everything you love doing to gain financial freedom. Or undergoing chronic stress and unnecessary pressure for the … Continue Reading →

 

Status and Validation

When you’re young and naive, you’d be tempted to pursue things you think would elevate your status. Your desire is irresistible since you wanted to impress your family and peers. All you want is get their validation. Without their validation, you are nothing. That’s why it’s common to see a young adult (early 20s) doing … Continue Reading →

 

The Beautiful Side

Last 2020, I wrote about my frustrations when we moved into a new house — reorganizing stuff, balancing work and creative projects, building a routine, etc. If you’ve read it, you know my frustration. And it’s happening again. Last month, we moved into a new house. This one is huge, which means more organizing to … Continue Reading →

 

Focus, Energy, and Time

For some people, maybe it’s important for them to focus on writing that album or selling that product. Or maybe it’s important for them to focus on what’s happening in their country’s politics or the life of that celebrity or their favorite artists. If you’re wondering why you’re not moving in the direction you intend … Continue Reading →

 

Look, That’s Me

These days, it’s easy to know what others are doing. The obvious downside is you can’t help but compare. Those you see doing greater things can make you feel envious. You feel bad for being small and not successful. Keep doing that and you’ll end up anxious — because of course, you want to keep … Continue Reading →

 

Doing the Opposite: A Greener Pasture or Danger

If you’re always looking for motivation, that means you don’t really want to do whatever you’re about to do. But you have to do it anyway because other people depend on you. Sometimes it works. Sometimes you can’t tell. Yet you have to do it anyway. But what if you’re sick and tired of it? … Continue Reading →

 

Don’t Live in the Dark

Any negative emotion and thought, if not channeled appropriately, could lead you into the dark. This dark place is where negativity, irrational fears, worries, and all the demons lurk. Too much stress and overthinking will lead you there. The more you spend time in that place, the more you become a coward — because it … Continue Reading →

 

Important vs Unimportant

Most people know what’s important and what’s not (you’re probably one of them). Unimportant things are a waste of time. Why waste time if you know life is short? But that’s not the real problem. The real problem is we still keep wasting time on things that are unimportant (despite the fact that we all … Continue Reading →

 

Zero to Ten is Enough

I finally got back to running/jogging last week — thanks to coach Mandy Keene. Even better my younger brother visited. So we did it together. I can say that having a companion helps. More fun and exciting. We even played basketball afterward as we both felt the momentum. This morning, I did it again. I … Continue Reading →

 

How to Avoid Drama (the not so obvious way)

Decide what thing you really want to focus on. Just one thing. Make it your mission. Commit to becoming really good at it. A master. An expert. A world-class performer. Do it every single day, whatever happens. Regardless of your situation, you will find time to work on it. You must focus. Have tunnel vision. … Continue Reading →