How to Avoid Drama (the not so obvious way)

Decide what thing you really want to focus on. Just one thing. Make it your mission. Commit to becoming really good at it. A master. An expert. A world-class performer. Do it every single day, whatever happens. Regardless of your situation, you will find time to work on it. You must focus. Have tunnel vision. … Continue Reading →

 

Are You Taking Things For Granted?

What are you doing with your free time? With your extra money? With your computer, your smartphone? What are you doing with everything you have that others don’t? If you have a computer and a stable Internet, try blogging or podcasting about your interest. Or try building digital products. Educate yourself using YouTube or online … Continue Reading →

 

What Do You Worship?

When the thing we worship consumes us and blinds us from seeing reality, that’s not a good place. Worship a beautiful body, you’ll always feel ugly. Worship money and material possessions, you’ll never have enough. Worship power, you’ll never feel powerful. Worship fame, you’ll never feel famous. What actually happens is that our brains trick … Continue Reading →

 

Starting Point

It can be tempting to make excuses why you can’t achieve that crazy dream. There are so many things to blame. Your country. Your parents. Your community. Your physical inadequacy. And on and on. Now you’re losing hope — or maybe not. Maybe you’re just researching. Asking questions. Seeking answers. Or maybe just waiting for … Continue Reading →

 

It’s Just a Target

All these “live a good life” philosophies or self-improvement practices are not meant to make us perfect individuals. They aren’t meant to make our lives perfect every single day. They are just a target to aim for. If you’re feeling bad or beating yourself up because of failing to hit your mark, you miss the … Continue Reading →

 

11 Truths I Learned at 31

Last Aug 2020, I turned 31. Yay! And again, it took me a year (or more) to distill and reflect the most important truths I’ve learned. I’m starting to accept that this is actually my process. So maybe I have to stop apologizing why it always take so long? You can check my previous entries … Continue Reading →

 

How to Feel “Enough”

Most people I know never feel enough. And with social media, that feeling is even more amplified. We say to ourselves we should be doing better or living life differently or investing in cryptocurrencies because that’s what others are doing. Otherwise, we’re left behind. We’re being stupid for not taking advantage of the opportunities. You … Continue Reading →

 

The Final Battle

If you’ve played some video games specifically a role-playing game (RPG), then you’ve experienced how being a hero works. But even if you haven’t played one, it’s still relatively easy to understand a hero’s life — thank you Marvel Studios! So here’s how it goes: You start by picking a character (the hero). Then you … Continue Reading →

 

But Life Goes On, Even Without You

Silly question. Can you remember anything before you’re born? I couldn’t remember anything either. They told me I was born in 1989. But what happened to me before that? Where am I? What was the world look like that time? Even more frustrating, I couldn’t remember most of the things that happened to me when … Continue Reading →

 

This is Your Evolution

No matter how disciplined or intelligent you think you are, you are still you — an imperfect human being. You can’t change that. Can’t escape that. You will make mistakes. You will make irrational decisions. You will make fun of others to feel good about yourself. And at some point you’d probably get tempted to … Continue Reading →

 

Awareness and Healing

You didn’t wish to be born. Didn’t choose your parents. Didn’t choose your race. But here you are… With your own personality, preferences, ideas, and beliefs. Unique in your own way. But there’s one problem — you’re not proud of who you are. You are shy, afraid, and anxious to show others your true self. … Continue Reading →

 

Beware, Information Explosion

Thanks to the Internet. We now have access to an endless stream of information. Sounds good? Yes and No. It’s good because we can easily find the right information we need to inform ourselves. But it becomes not good when we lose control of our consumption. The mind has only limited capacity. It is not … Continue Reading →

 

On Losing Efficiency

Becoming efficient at something means you’re flowing like water. You’re delivering what needs to be delivered. You’re nailing it. This requires an insane amount of focus and discipline. But efficiency isn’t all-encompassing. If you try to be efficient at one thing, you might become less efficient at other things. It’s the truth. When I became … Continue Reading →

 

Superpowers You Can Nurture

Real superpower isn’t having an unimaginable strength or extraordinary fighting abilities. Those are just what the movies portray. There’s more to that in real life. Here are some of them: Not taking criticisms and negative feedbacks seriously. Staying calm amidst a stressful situation. Not getting envious of other people’s achievements. Not getting distracted by trivial … Continue Reading →

 

Honesty, Reality, Love

Most people I know confess there’s something they truly love to do. It’s their passion. It’s their purpose in life. Maybe they really love doing it. Maybe they’re honest. But when you ask them why they aren’t doing it, things get interesting. Lots of excuses. It’s because they have to do something first. They have … Continue Reading →

 

The Present Moment is All There is

Now that I’m a parent I often find myself worrying about the future. But every time I’m doing this, it’s pulling my attention out from the present moment. For example, instead of enjoying my baby’s giggles or cuddling with him, I sometimes zone out and fantasize different things I should do to give him the … Continue Reading →