Now that I’m a parent I often find myself worrying about the future. But every time I’m doing this, it’s pulling my attention out from the present moment. For example, instead of enjoying my baby’s giggles or cuddling with him, I sometimes zone out and fantasize different things I should do to give him the … Continue Reading →

The things you believe in are mostly passed down to you. You may not remember it, but you didn’t have any beliefs back then. Nothing. Along the way though, you picked up stuff — not just beliefs, also ideals and preferences and dreams. You were unconsciously constructing your own sense of self. And planning for … Continue Reading →

It’s human nature to respond to a positive action with positive action. In social psychology, they call it reciprocity. This simply means we want to give back. We don’t want to feel indebted. Maybe not the case for everyone, but I always feel that way. The other day I asked my colleague for a favor. … Continue Reading →

Whenever you think you’re lazy to do something, it’s not actually laziness — you’re just afraid of something. Fear takes over. Imagine how many things you could have done if you muster enough courage to do them. Courage to tell someone about your feelings. Courage to propose a project with a like-minded individual. Courage to … Continue Reading →

Find people you trust or people who truly understand what you’re doing. Or people who are actually doing what you’re doing. Ask them for feedback. “What can you say about my work? How can I improve it? What should I avoid doing?” Then reassess. And Improve. Keep improving until you become confident with it. The … Continue Reading →